Back in October, I wrote about the frustration I have eating with friends when I try to maintain a dairy-free diet. Then last week, I posted a popular comment on MizFit’s blog where she was discussing the Showtime program Ruby.
Part of the process is to learn how to live by the boundaries we choose for ourselves in a world that does not have boundaries. I hope it makes us stronger in the long run. Not angry or bitter or deprived. Stronger. More confident. More ourselves. And eventually healthier and happier.
It was after writing this that it suddenly struck me: The frustration and (I’ll admit it) anger I felt was because I was expecting others to recognize and acknowledge MY boundaries rather than simply owning them as mine and learning how to live with them.
I’ll admit it. I want ice cream. I want cheesecake. I want pizza. I want them inspite of the fact that I know I will feel like hell later if I eat them. It’s easy at home; there are plenty of choices for me so I don’t have to feel deprived. What I want in my heart is for the rest of the world to be as easy as home is. No challenges, no missing boundaries.
Instead of feeling frustration and anger, I need to step up and live the words I wrote: Learn to live within my own boundaries. Adjust my thoughts so I recognize what I CAN enjoy: the company of good friends. Instead of focusing on what I can’t have. Prepare, even if it means bringing more of my own food or eating first at home.